This past month there’s been a see-saw of media opinion on single motherhood. Articles are often written praising single motherhood as the new norm. They go gaga over Hollywood celebrities who manage to keep their star polished and shining bright while raising illegitimate offspring, conceived with some rock band member or other, alone with only a housekeeper, nanny, personal trainer, and maybe one of Dr Phil’s books.
But a few weeks ago when Ann Coulter’s new book came out, they adamantly blasted her notions that single motherhood was actually a scourge on society. Ann stated rather vehemently that single motherhood costs taxpayers billions of dollars every year and produces prison inmates and strippers. She argued that poverty doesn’t produce criminals, single mothers do, because they choose to have children without a primary breadwinner. (I’d clarify breadwinner as a father who leads, loves, and provides for them, but that’s just me.)
This week the media is hysterical about a woman who chose to have fourteen kids without a father. Apparently if you have a litter of babies, you’re no longer considered brave and virtuous, but rather mentally unstable and possibly sucking the last dollars of welfare money from the State of California.
Does the number of children change the facts? If a single woman has one child without a father she is held up as a role model, but if she has an addiction to children, like the potato chip commercial says, you can’t eat just one, she is psycho.
The facts are that most single mothers (women who have never been married. I am not including widows or divorced mothers in this diatribe) choose to get pregnant with no regard to the future of their children. Like the babies they bring into this world, they are immature and selfish. They want something and instead of counting the cost, monetarily, emotionally, or morally, they think only of right now this moment.
With condoms and other means of birth control flowing freely out of high schools and clinics, there is really no excuse for out-of-wedlock pregnancies in America, even for the poor. We no longer live in an “unenlightened” society where women have children until they can’t any longer or they die in childbirth. But with this freedom also comes stupid choices.
The government can throw condoms at kids all they want but they can’t force them to put them on. That’s where a national spay & neuter day for stupid people might come in handy. I’m sure Obama has thought about it. But how to enforce it? Hmm.
Of course, I do not condone this method of birth control, but abstinence seems to have gone the way of the dodo bird in our society. Without God in the mix, people live for the moment and that obviously does not include self-control or purity.
Back to the woman in California who had octuplets this past week. She admitted that she has no husband, no job, and lives with her parents. That isn’t the worst of it though. She already had six children under the age of seven that were also conceived through this wonderful scientific procedure called, In Vitro Fertilization. No daddy required.
The woman said in an interview, “All I wanted was children. I wanted to be a mom. That’s all I ever wanted in my life.”That’s a lot of wanting.
Well, she definitely got what she wanted. Fourteen children collected like an eight-year-old collects Barbies. I wonder if she has Malibu Barbie yet?
She told the reporter in the interview that “it turned out perfectly.” Perfect: Fourteen children for her poor parents to worry about while she lives in a bubble of insanity. Fourteen children without a father’s influence on their lives. Fourteen children for the state to feed, clothe, and raise.
So, yes she compounded the cons of single-motherhood fourteen times over, but they’re still the same cons. Where are the pros in all of this? Sorry-can’t think of one.
With fourteen children she’ll never have to be alone. She may want to, but it ain’t gonna happen. With fourteen children she gets to hear “mommy” 24 hrs a day, non-stop. With fourteen children, who needs sleep?
Yes, I believe she is mentally unstable, and suffers from a lack of moral clarity, but that doesn’t mean she’s crazy. That will come later when she brings the octuplet litter home. Let’s hope she has a lot more patience and love than she has common sense.